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August 9, 2010

We are so thrilled to finally be able to share We Deserve This with our friends.

This space is a collection of  moments in the lives of mothers…  Not only for the two of us, but for our friends as well.   A place to capture and share how we spend the time that we steal for ourselves everyday. The time that leaves us feeling relaxed, calmed, inspired, warmed, nurtured….whole.

This project is very near and dear to each of our hearts and we hope that it becomes a place of inspiration to those who visit us here. We look forward to watching this space blossom and getting to know all of the women who will join us in finding the space to exhale in the everyday.

We will begin our official posting on Thursday morning, but in the mean time… we would like to leave you with a  bit of an introduction from each of us explaining what exactly this space means to us.



9 months ago I had come to what I thought was the end of expansion. My seventh pregnancy, two living children, and one more heartache had left me feeling as though my family was set. Today we are blessed to be completing our first trimester with a beautiful new soul. This has not been an easy journey, for we lost it’s twin just weeks after finding out we were pregnant, and everyday has brought a balance between fear and joy that keeps us on our toes. We have hope, and that hope is what will see us through.

I stepped away from the world for these past few months, and until recently I did not realize how much I had missed the women of this blogging community whose daily words, thoughts and prayers have certainly seen me through. The one thing that I have valued most about this community is the ways that I have learned what is truly important in life, the small things that make my life my own.

When Julia suggested this project, it immediately felt right. We first explored the idea of friendship, for that is something that Julia and I have experienced, as many of you, through this community. We talk daily, we support one another, we have become true friends without ever so much as a hug or a face-to-face hello. But from the idea of friendship, we realized that there was a subject much more in need of exploration, and one that we both are struggling with and always seeking out in this moment; nurturing the women we are in order to be the best mothers, friends, wives, and people within the communities that we inhabit.

For those that know me, this is a subject that I have been passionate about, and that is an underlying theme in my life. This space is one to truly share the ups and downs on that journey, and to be honest for what nurturing through the tough moments, as well as the easy ones, is all about. I suppose that this is another step in communication as well, for it is just as much about hearing how others navigate this same issue, and connecting through acceptance that we all deserve the most beautiful life that we can possibly live.

Thanks for joining us

For a little bit more about my family and I, please visit Shivaya Naturals



In the last few weeks my family’s life has literally been turned on it’s head…a devastating diagnosis for a beloved family member, trips to another state for the start of treatments and extended amounts of time spent away from my family while I spend time caring for and being with someone who is very important to me.  All the while I find myself juggling my schedule, continuing to work full time as a nurse, and trying my best to be a good wife, mother, twin, daughter, and aunt…
Needless to say, my emotions have been running high. With each day that passes, a new bit of information has begged to be absorbed by my already overflowing mind, and with it, my spirit and faith have been tested.  All the while, I have been reminded by those who love me to….relax, to take some time, to remember to take care of myself.

But I didn’t (of course not)  and it got the best of me.  I became withdrawn even further into myself and in the process I left my little blog (that was so very important to me) out in the cold…abandoned in cyberspace.

You see, it is hard to return to a place that has become such a huge part of who you are…when you are feeling anything BUT yourself.

A week ago I awoke with a start at 4 in the morning… I was gasping for air and there were tears streaming down my barely-awake-cheeks.   It was then that I realized that my soul was famished.  Apparently, I had been starving myself of hope and faith.

(Sorrow is a selfish wench…If you don’t keep her in check, she has a tendency to choke out all of the good.)

Sitting there in bed with my little boy snuggled at my side, I became acutely aware of what it was that I needed to do.

I needed to reconnect with myself, so that I might be more help to those who REALLY need me.  I knew that blogging was a part of that reconnection to myself, as it was something that I enjoy so much and use as not only a place to share, but also the only place that I write for me.  I just couldn’t keep up the pace of posting to which I had been.
I needed to make a point of finding the space to exhale every single day.

And that is what this space is to me.  A place to share with one of my dearest of friends who is going through her own life changes. Where I can look back on this coming year with all of it’s hardships and heartache and uncertainties and know that there was calm in the midst of chaos.

If you don’t know me and would like a little back story, I would love it if you visited me in my other space…..

Adirondack Mama


To learn more about how to join in with We Deserve This, or to simply understand what this space is all about, please follow this link.


There is even a Flickr Group

19 Comments leave one →
  1. August 9, 2010 2:33 pm

    Beautiful words from both of you. Thank you for sharing so much of yourselves. Looking forward to reading more in this new space!

  2. August 9, 2010 2:41 pm

    this seems like a great idea. I am just getting to the point where I feel I REALLY appreciate the time I take for myself to rejuvenate my soul, not just for myself, but my husband and kids, too!

  3. Claudia permalink
    August 9, 2010 8:10 pm

    What a sweet idea! Thank you for sharing your experience and for encouraging us all to take care of ourselves. We deserve this…

  4. August 9, 2010 8:41 pm

    wow, how timely, the signposts have been everywhere in my day to day of late, and here I find yet another…..looking forward to this as a reminder, when I forget (as I so often do), to take some time to replenish my soul, and to renew myself.

  5. August 9, 2010 8:57 pm

    such beautiful words. i absolutely love this project.

  6. August 9, 2010 9:13 pm

    how timely, as we come to the end of a dragged out winter in the southern hemisphere and all around me are feeling the gloom, to find a place of light and warmth! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

  7. August 9, 2010 10:13 pm

    what a perfect forum to find refreshment. thank you both for sharing the journey. blessings!

  8. August 9, 2010 10:22 pm

    lovely – it’s not easy to read every word through my own tears – but it’s easy to tell it’s lovely and I am excited about this space~!

  9. August 10, 2010 12:55 am

    This is exactly what I love about the internet/blogging community. Your beautiful words just so perfectly express what I feel. This has been an ongoing issue for me that was only magnified once my children were born. I’m really looking forward to more of “We Deserve This”.

  10. August 10, 2010 3:48 am

    I love this. It’s so thoughtful and inspiring.I’m looking forward to this because it’s so touching.

  11. August 10, 2010 1:31 pm

    I very much love the idea of this – as I am struggling with some ugly finality in my own life, and seeking to reclaim the joy that is still here. Thank you for the reminder. We DO deserve this.

  12. August 10, 2010 6:20 pm

    powerful and oh so good. this is a gift to yourselves and to all of us. well done ladies. i cannot wait to see the beauty that unfolds here.

  13. August 10, 2010 9:55 pm

    you deserve this and more! ❤

  14. August 11, 2010 12:08 am

    I really look forward to reading this…and as my mom used to say…maybe I will learn something!

  15. August 11, 2010 2:13 am

    I think of blogging as part of something I do for myself too. In a way it allows me to connect with my thoughts and feelings a little deeper. I am looking forward to being here with you two awesome gals!


  16. August 12, 2010 5:08 am

    Oh, I love this! Hope it helps get me over my blogging hiatus hump! I look forward to all that is to come from you both.

  17. August 12, 2010 8:18 pm

    What a beautiful idea. I can’t wait to read more!

  18. Mom permalink
    August 13, 2010 12:02 am

    Julia….. my wonderful,sweet,caring,beautiful gift…. from GOD.
    As my Mom used to tell me….many times and for many years….
    “Take care of yourself because, if you don’t……who is going to take care of you?”
    If you continue to “do” for everyone else….there will be nothing left of value….for yourself.

    It’s okay to be a little “selfish”….. SLOW DOWN….go for that walk, swim or bike ride, take that long and lovely bubble bath, read that next chapter, knit or sew a few stitches,OR perhaps….
    JUST….sit and be quiet…. and allow yourself to be absorbed in your surroundings and they in you….with your own thoughts, hope and dreams. All of these things that we all sometimes say…”Oh, I don’t have the time or…. I can’t.” We…. as wives,Mom’s,sisters,etc. are constantly putting our own wants and NEEDS on hold….for what and WHY?!
    ENJOY YOUR LIFE so that you will be able to enjoy it…. along with others.

  19. Unearthing This Life permalink
    August 13, 2010 2:28 am

    Thank you, ladies! I’m so very glad to see you both doing this together – and I’m especially glad to see Heather back at it. I look forward to visiting often!


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